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Kind words are short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. – Mother Teresa
Many people talk about random acts of kindness, and their stories are inspiring. To quietly serve another person seems to amplify the good many times over, especially when it’s widely shared on the Internet. I got to thinking about not-so-random acts of kindness that may be less often expressed but just as valuable despite their rarity.
My first inkling of this came in a store one day. I asked the clerk for an item I needed and he turned to get it for me. A man and his little girl stood next to me and as I glanced over I saw his face was beet red. Momentarily puzzled, I suddenly came to and exclaimed, “Oh my gosh. I am so sorry! You were here first and I didn’t even see you!” He visibly relaxed. His face returned to a normal shade as he smiled and kindly said, “It’s okay, no harm done.” Who performed the act of kindness here? I’d say that patient guy led the way.
Another time, I pulled into a Post Office parking lot to drop letters in the mailbox near a woman in an SUV, and saw her cursing loudly and literally bouncing off the walls of her car in fury. I pointed to the mailbox and mouthed, “It’s okay, I’m going over there, not parking.” The seemingly wild beast of a moment before immediately relaxed. A not-so-random act of kindness but a focused one, easing someone’s obvious pain.
Another instance caught me off guard. Actually I was shocked. Grocery shopping, I was near the end of the meat case checking prices when an exasperated voice said, “For God’s sake, every time you move I’ve moved out of your way. But I’m not going to move again!” Wow! How did I completely miss this person and his courteous attempts to give me access to the meat counter, or his rising ire? I said, “Oh, wow, I am so sorry.” He laughed then and said, “It’s okay, I’m just having a bad day.”
Being aware of the people around us seems so basic and ingrained in us that it’s a shock to discover we’ve missed something so important to another person. But when we make a sincere connection with that person, it so often clears the air.
It reminds me of a time I was driving and some teenaged boys pulled right up behind me obviously wanting to pass. I couldn’t do anything about it then, but as soon as I could, I pulled over. I thought they’d probably yell at me as they went by, but they didn’t. They honked and waved, and as their car pulled next to mine in passing I saw them smiling and saying, “Thanks!” Wow! I know that according to universal law, what I give out will come back, but it can still surprise me when it happens.
These are some of the seemingly ordinary, everyday moments that are without price, when we can express a kind of connection that shows someone we value them, we’re all in this life together. When we make this small effort that costs us nothing, they feel happier, relieved, less stressed, and whatever the problem was evaporates in the genuine caring of a thoughtful human exchange.
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10 thoughts on “Not-So-Random Acts of Kindness”
These are wonderful examples of how easily someone’s negative moment – or day – can be diffused by a simple kind act. It seems almost like they expect the worst of others and are surprised by the reality. I believe if we look for the goodness in all people, we can be rewarded by witnessing examples of kindnesses nearly every day.
Life is so busy and we are usually so into what we are doing or need to do that we’re self-absorbed. When I can be less selfish and think more of others, I find instances when I can do little kindnesses so much easier to recognize and thus easier to give.
It’s easy to get wrapped up and focused on what you need at the moment. Being more observant of what’s going on around you is a blessing for all concerned. We truly are “all in this life together”!
Kind words really do make a difference in our lives. When we respond with a kind word or smile we are able to diffuse the stress and tension from ourselves and from others instead of carrying around the negative feelings of anger or resentment. This article is a beautiful reminder to us all to assume the best in people instead of the worst. I agree with SM that unexpected kindnesses towards me stay in my mind for a very long time. A beautiful read!
I like the thought that “whatever the problem was evaporates in the genuine caring of a thoughtful human exchange.” Seems like people sometimes think if they push with power they will get what they want, or might impress people more. But nothing seems to stay in my mind and heart more than remembered kindnesses done for me when I least expected it. Kindness is power.
Yes . . . kindness is power, power over yourself and over the situation at hand. Not the kind of power that corrupts, but a kind that empowers not only ourselves but those we interact with.
I agree. What a great thought – “Kindness is Power.” As with the simple act of smiling, extending a kindness can have an immediate positive effect on another.
What great examples of the many ways of expressing kindliness. And how quickly it can transmute feelings of slight, into those of respect, after all it’s through showing one another respect that we tell each other that we are connected.
It’s hard to add anything to such a well expressed and beautiful sentiment as that in the last paragraph. We all want to be treated with respect and consideration, and when we receive it it greatly minimizes any offense and brings out the best in all of us.